My elderly mentor cut me out of his will with no explanation

DEAR ABBY: For 15 years I’ve maintained a detailed friendship with a rich older man who has turn out to be a sort of mentor. He’s 90 years previous now and in failing well being. He informed me on a number of events that I used to be named in his will, however after we met for lunch the opposite day, he knowledgeable me his complete property will go to his live-in caregivers. 

I used to be by no means on this friendship for the cash (he solely lately grew to become rich after inheriting his late sister’s property), but it surely hurts figuring out I’ve been eradicated from his will with no clarification. I earn a six-figure earnings and don’t want his cash, but it surely bothers me. If I ask about it, I’ll seem greedy. If I say nothing, it is going to gnaw away at me. What do I do? — PROMISE WITHDRAWN IN TEXAS

DEAR PROMISE: Stop worrying about appearances and ask him the query it is best to have requested when he informed you he had modified his will and eradicated you. Do it now. He’s 90 and in failing well being, and you might not have lengthy to get the reply to the query.

DEAR ABBY: I’ve a detailed pal, “Renee,” whom I’ve recognized for a number of years. She typically involves my house within the evenings for an hour or so to get away from her home. She’s a single guardian who lives at house along with her mother and two youngsters, so she considers it an escape. 

Whereas I don’t thoughts her coming over most days, a considerably delicate problem has come up. Renee typically wears tennis footwear with out socks, or footwear for a really very long time with out washing them. When she takes them off, they stink. She then tries to cover her smelly ft beneath the blankets I carry on my sofa. It doesn’t assist. I can nonetheless odor them, and my blankets stink when she leaves. 

This problem is embarrassing, and I don’t wish to damage her emotions however, actually, I’m sick of getting to scrub my blankets each time she comes over. Any solutions on how I ought to deal with this? — SUFFERING IN SILENCE

DEAR SUFFERING: Deal with this by asking your pal to please preserve her footwear on and her ft on the ground when she’s at your own home. If she asks why, inform her the reality and recommend she begin washing her footwear — and her ft — repeatedly.

DEAR ABBY: I’m a 9-year-old woman. Proper now I don’t do chores or get an allowance, however I wish to. How ought to I ask my mother and father? And the way a lot cash ought to I ask for? — KID WHO NEEDS CASH

DEAR KID: Inform your mother and father you wish to speak to them about an allowance. Ask what issues you could possibly do to assist round the home to be able to earn one and the way a lot they’re keen to pay you for doing them. As to how a lot to anticipate, this may depend upon what your mother and father could possibly afford. Ask them in the event you can negotiate to search out an quantity you all agree upon. And in the event you want more cash, doing related chores for a relative or neighbor is perhaps a great place to begin.

Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.